Thursday, November 18, 2010

My True Love

We flew in under the radar. At least the news and at least to most people.

Yesterday, Denton and I got married in Washington DC.

Mallied? Yeah - mallied.......sheeesh (you have to say it like Long Duck Dong).

I know most of you who follow this here blog-thingy knew we were planning on getting married, I even probably put a date of August/September on the books for this to happen. Alas, it did not - and all due to my work schedule.

Partially because of this, it was even smaller of a ceremony than we anticipated - and that the original wasn't sizeable to being with. We had a window of opportunity and we took it. It was either that or wait until 2011. We discussed for a while and decided to go for it.

Because of our decision, we knew we were giving up a few things - and mainly those were people we wanted to be there, but we made it difficult for them to attend. I'm sure if we even gave them two more weeks, they might have - but frick, I would have felt guilty about them having to trek to DC for that, especially so close to the holidays and their own vacations.

It sounds lame when you say it out loud like that, but it is the truth. As it turns out we had one guest: Rebecca.

She really dropped everything to be there. I was elated, I was guilt-ridden. It was between her class schedule and going on her 10th anniversary trip with her husband. That she showed was nothing short of amazing. And she really did represent our other close friends who could not attend.

As I mentioned in a July post regarding getting married, we were not planning on doing it at the courthouse. First off, I didn't like the venue. Secondly, we would have had to battle the final day of the Chandra Levy trial. We wanted to do it outside, if possible.

I had vetted a number of officiants, some who were good, but unavailable, some who were just loons before I found one I really liked. While a religious man, he didn't push that aspect - and he was gay too, so he kind of got where we were coming from.

Ed, the officiant, helped me with narrowing down a location and even helped with a photographer. He was a great non-wedding planner, wedding planner.

We opted for the Enid Haupt Garden, right outside the Smithsonian castle. The photographer, a graduate student from American University. I snapped this pic while we waited to start.

The ceremony was not long, but it was very emotional for not only Denton and myself, but Rebecca too. No one is ashamed to say that tears were shed by all. Well, maybe not by Jordan, the photog.

Since we were out in the open, a number of people witnessed the ceremony. Four people eating lunch in the garden broke into applause and congratulated us. Ditto with some people elsewhere in the garden when we took pictures afterwards. It was very nice and very reaffirming.

...and it was a perfect day. 60 degrees, blue sky with white clouds (see above pic). What more could you ask for?

I said - "I couldn't have planned this better". Becky came back easily with, "you didn't".

True that! We didn't.

There was very little planning. And by little, I mean almost none.

We had "rehearsal dinner" (i.e. small plates and tequila) the night before, and then a great dessert of oh, say, toffee covered pretzels and Prosecco....all while back in our hotel room with TV and each on our laptops. Ahhhh.....the 21st century!

Becky did a few grand gestures one being going out the morning of the wedding and getting us boutiners....and she read a Navajo poem at the ceremony as well. It was beautiful....and she made a little funny at the end of it. She also went and did the whole something old/new/borrowed/blue thing, which never even crossed our minds. Maybe pictures of that later.

After all was said and done, we had our "reception". Or as you people call it: lunch.

On a whim, we went to the W on 15th St. We hit the rooftop for lunch, as it overlooks the White House.

Yes, wine in mid-day....and more small plates. And a great view, with my now husband, and a great friend.

Once we sort through the pictures and such, I may post some here. Denton has been fairly invisible here and he likes that, but we'll see. If nothing else, I'm sure I have shots of just me I can post.

Song by: the Eurythmics


Nick UK said...

May you both continue to have a long and happy life together.

Kevin said...

Congratulations and welcome to the Big Gay Married Club

AJohnP said...

AHHHH!! How exciting!!! I'm so happy for you both. Welcome to the club. ;-)

PS - my verification word was mulan. Awesome.

Jonny said...

As you know, my belief is that it is highly civilized to have a glass of wine or beer mid day with lunch...aids in digestion. It wasn't until I moved to the South that such practice was frowned upon.
However...those look like wine spritzers.

Breenlantern said...

My gift to you is to not go on a 12 paragraph tirade about how I should have been invited because even I can't come with a plausible reason why I would warrant an invite. (*smirk*)

A hearty and sincere Congratulations to you both and an even warmer welcome to "the club." I am so happy to read the day went so perfectly and a bit jealous that, unintentional or otherwise, you did not have to get mired down in the details of shoulds and should nots and got to just foucus on the moment and the reason you were there.

Reading "The ceremony was not long, but it was very emotional for not only Denton and myself, but Rebecca too. No one is ashamed to say that tears were shed by all." made me tear up. It always captures me off guard when you veer from your usual stoicism and dry wit and reveal that tender gooey part of you. Just the thought of you tearing up makes me want to sob.

SO happy for you both and I'm hoping Denton might break his rule just once and let us see the blushing brides :-)

Birdie said...

I'm just a puddle right now. I'm so happy for you guys. *sniff*

YES, we want pictures! Tell Denton this is the one event in which he must appear.

Cubby said...

Congratulations Blobby and Denton! I'm so happy for you both, and really proud that you joined the club. I'm sitting here giggling with joy as I write this!

I've suspected for a long time that your Denton and Spo's "Someone" were the same imaginary person. Can you prove me wrong? A pic would do it.

I'm going to get you fellas a really nice wedding gift. I'll go to Walgreen's later and get the finest box of wine money can buy. No? Don't want that? Ok, maybe something a little better. You'll be surprised :-)

don said...

Congratulations Mrs Blobby

Unknown said...

Best wishes to you both. I am so happy for you.

Anonymous said...

Congratulations to you both. May you enjoy many happy years together and have the strength to weather the tough times.

rebecca said...

I'm in tears (lol I typed 'teats') again just reading this!!

It really was glorious. SO glad you let me in on it!!!

tornwordo said...

Aww that's just great. Would love to see a wedding pic. Congrats!

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Morty said...

It's about time you/he made him/you an honest man/man!

Love you both - so very happy for you!!

anne marie in philly said...

mazel tov for you both! so wonderful to hear the happy news!

and yes, you MUST post a pix of you and denton together, just this once, for the special occasion...then your husband (ooooh, I got a thrill typing that!) can go back to his obscurity.

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Curtis said...

I couldn't be happier for both of you!. Congratulations and may you both have many more years together.

Dith said...

Marriage in our culture, at least among many straight people, is so very meaningless. As a friend said, "they come together and apart like zippers." Your marriage has given me a whole new feeling about the institution as a whole. Very happy for you both. Much love!

David G said...

Congratulations to my two favorite people in the world! You make the perfect "spousal unit." Wish you both the greatest of happiness......

cb said...

Evidently I don't follow your blog closely enough. I had NO idea that you got married! Complete shock!


Erik Rubright said...

Congratulations to you both!!!

Ur-spo said...

I go away for a few days and ya get hitched !?
I want to join the chorus of congratulations.

Bless you both!

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